Strict Parenting: Chinese or Westerner

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Strict Parenting: Chinese or Westerner There are many different parenting techniques; each culture has their own way of raising their children, the end result is the same, we want what’s best for them and we want to see them happy. In the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” by Amy Chua, Chua talks about how the Chinese way is the best way to raise a child. She compares her style against “Westerner parents” in which Hanna Rosin defends the “Westerners” in her article “Mother Inferior?” Chua is a very strict mother, she considers herself what is called a “Chinese mother” which is a parenting style most Chinese mothers live by. Rosin is what Chua would call a “Westerner”. Who is to say one parenting technique is better than the other? Rosin brings up a good point in her article defending all the “Western parents”. The two techniques are similar in ways and different in others, but the sole purpose is to see your child grow into a healthy, happy, successful individual. Chinese mothers restrict their children from doing what they want to do, they believe that “they know what’s best for their children”, (Chua, 2011) which is true amongst both techniques. The difference is that Chinese mothers will restrict what their children can do and force them to study and practice for hours until they have perfected it. They want their children to be the best at everything they do, and this requires compromising fun and friends as a child. This Chinese style restricts them from having play dates, attend sleepovers, be in school plays, watch TV or play computer games, or even choose their own extracurricular activities. (Chua, 2011) Rosin brings up a point that “Ms. Chua’s parenting prescription is that is exists wholly apart from any passion or innate talent”. (Rosin, 2011) How can a child be passionate about something they have been instilled to “love”? When all you know…...

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