Resolving Conflicts in Relationships Through Negotiation.

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Resolving Conflicts in Relationships Through Negotiation.

Conflict is inevitable in relationships because people have different needs and viewpoints (Wood, 2002; Purkey, Schmidt & Novak, 2010) and thus conflict involves the expression of these tensions (Wood, 2002). This essay will focus on the role of negotiation in resolving conflicts in interpersonal relationships; the chosen setting being that of a couple who are in conflict about their life directions with one wishing to travel and the other wishing to save for a home. It will start with defining conflict in general and then focus on the context of conflict in interpersonal relationships. Following this there will be an examination of the negotiation method of resolving interpersonal conflict as well a description of a range of communication skills that are required for negotiation. Finally, it will discuss the role of third- party intervention in conflict resolution and conclude with a summary of the key points.
Folger, Poole and Stutman (2009, p. 4) define conflict as “the interaction of interdependent people who perceive incompatibility and the possibility of inference from others as a result of this incompatibility.” Johnson and Johnson (1987) refer to “conflicts of interest” and state that these may be based on differing needs and opinions or inequalities in relation to resources such as power, money, time and position. Conflict is the struggle between opposing needs and viewpoints and arises when we perceive that another person or group is interfering with our ability to attain a certain goal (De Janasz, Dowd & Schneider, 2006). According to De Janasz, Dowd and Schneider (2006), society’s view of conflict has changed over time from the views held in the early 20th century that conflict was always bad and something to be avoided; through to perspectives held in the 1940s to 1970s that conflict…...

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