Rebellion in Marriage

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2 KINGS 1:1-12
“Moab rebelled against Israel after the death of Ahab.” 2 Kings 1.1
One of the reasons some marriages fail including Christian marriages is a pre-determined mindset to rebellion. What do we mean by this you may ask? When a person pre-determines in their heart to rebel against their spouse in marriage; they carry a belief in their heart that they will always be right no matter what happens in the marriage.
We have heard ladies with this mindset say things like; “No man can ever tell me what to do” and we have also heard men with this mindset say words like; “My wife can never control me.” This rebellious mindset makes one take a stand even before any issue arises and deliberately decide never to budge or compromise.
This pre-determined mindset to rebellion does not make you a stronger person; it actually shows weakness in character. Without knowing it when you develop and feed this mindset; you are actually digging an early grave for a marriage that may still be alive.
People who have this mindset are often on the defensive even when there is no reason to be. They see submission as a sign of weakness or defeat and even though they may realize they are in the wrong; they refuse to give in; preferring to argue.
There are different reasons people develop this pre-determined mindset to rebellion and one of such reasons is as a result of the background they are coming from as we discussed in yesterday’s devotional.
A young man shared that even before he got married; he decided in his heart to ‘put his wife in her place’. What did she ever do we wondered? He later realized that his decision came after growing up and watching his mother literally bully his father and seeing his father manipulated by his mother’s actions. So even if he married a lovely lady; because of his pre-determined decision; there was no way he could enjoy that marriage.
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